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Identity vs. Identity confusionAt the beginning of this stage in my life, I went through a bit of the tomboy phase. I cut my hair very short and acted like one of the boys. The boys were actually afraid of me because I played sports so aggressively. Physically, I was built big for a girl my age and height, I put on muscle very easily so I think that is what made me think I needed to play like a boy. I was built like one, so why not play with one? I was uncomfortable in my own skin, but I think everyone was at that time. Over time, I made friends with more girls and transitioned into wearing dresses and sandals, and started getting my nails and hair done. I pretty much returned to being a high-maintenance diva, but without the attitude this time. I was still built bigger, but it became more normal for girls to have a lot of muscle, so I started to feel more comfortable with myself, emotionally and physically. My best friend Nikki was a big influence in my life at this time. She is the one who helped me with the transition from a tomboy into an actual girl, doing girly things. She also helped me with my social development in this stage. I had always been shy, but she helped me break out of my shell and become the loud opinionated person I am today.
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